Often, when people ask me "Do you have children?" or "How many kids do you have?" that usually ends up with me talking about my kids...which often leads to me mentioning that one of our twins has Down syndrome. That bit of information usually results in an "Awhh" from them. Which really is their way of saying "too bad". Can I tell you how much I HATE that!!!!!
When I think of Braden and his life I never think "Awhh".
People are always concerned with what kind of quality life could he have? And I have to tell you --- he has the same quality of life that each of my other kids have! He lives in the same home, goes to the same places, eats the same food, has the same pets. I know what they mean... is it so hard to live with this condition that they would never want to live a life like that. Like it would be a life not worth living.
But I think your quality of life doesn't boil down to what you know or what career you have. What you own or the number of zeros in your bank account.
I think it is about how you feel each day as you lay your head down to sleep at night. I think it is about what made you smile that day. Who loved you and who did you love. It's about ice cream and rainbows. Swimming and swing sets. Having some one to kiss your boo boos. I think it's about sledding and hot chocolate. Campfires and s'mores. I think it is about snuggling under blankets and watching your favorite movie. I think it's about throwing snowballs and eating snow.
I think it is about
and belonging to a family
about being adored
It's about feeling the salty sea breeze
and splashing in water til your soaking wet
It's about enjoying your favorite foods
and cheering for your favorite team
It's about special outings to the zoo
and building sand castles
It's about dressing up in cheesy, homemade Halloween costumes
and reading a good book
It's about driving your truck in the sandbox
and saying your prayers
It's about slides
and rock climbing
and holding a newborn
It's about having trick candles on your birthday cake
and having best friends
So, I say there is no "Awh" here. Nothing to be pitied or felt sorry for.
What is life like for a child with Down syndrome?
Take a look at his face.
Take a look and see.
I see happiness.
I see a life definately worth living!